Sunday, January 10, 2016
a different perspective
I had an experience of this today whilst talking to a good friend. We were speaking about the topic of temporality when she said something quite astounding.
"I find comfort in the temporality of this world."
It invoked a lot of curiosity in me as for most of us, it is the very temporality of our lives that causes us great anxiety and fear. Whether it be death itself or the "mini-deaths" we experience in our day to day lives that manifest in the form of change (i.e. whether it be successes or failures), suffice it to say, impermanence is something that does not sit well with most of us.
And so, I asked her what specifically brought her comfort. Her answer was simple but profound.
When we understand that the world and everything in it is temporary, it has the capacity to take a lot of pressure off of us.
Let me elaborate. Relationships, whether personal or professional affect us greatly. The words and behaviours of others can wreck havoc on our ego and emotions. However, if we view those same experiences through this perspective of temporality, it can invoke greater peace within us. How so? Because we recognize that those words or behaviours have a limited shelf life and in due course come to the conclusion that defining our value and self-worth on something that can change and fluctuate so quickly is a bad investment.
We learn not to take ourselves (and our ego!) so seriously. We become more compassionate with ourselves and others. And for some, we can start taking risks. Whether it be volunteering to give a presentation (which we would have never dreamt of doing!) or learning how to compromise in a situation where we really want to do things our way, recognizing that everything is temporary truly can take the pressure off.
What would you be inspired to do if the pressure was taken off of you?